"Now I am saying yes because I can, not because I have to. I allow myself to put down my boundaries, I know everything starts with me. And that I can show more of my true self."
This is Eccas Success Story showing how important it is to listen to the stories we tell ourselves and how powerful it can be to simply go behind the Why of your beliefs.
the before
"I have been able to put on a face for SO long of seeming like I have the answers, seeming like know what I am doing and seeming like it's all going really smoothly and it wasn't until our coaching that I thought: "hang on, there is something I want to change."
Ecca's vibe? Doing, doing, doing resulting in overwhelm. Two businesses, one corporate job, a partner, a dog and herself.
THE STARTING POINT
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just started a new business, co-owning with two other amazing women
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whilst handling her own business pleasure on purpose AND being in a corporate job, a partner, a friend and a dog mum
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felt very chaotic and up in her head, rather then in her heart
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no time for herself or self care rituals
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little boundaries and people pleasing was a thing that drained her energy slowly but steadily
other stories:
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high mental load due to a high number of projects
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taking on too much and always saying YES
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building a new business but due to missing structure and clarity felt not confident in it
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uninspired, burned out
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low in energy, switching between super high excitement and low lows
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no space for friendships or self care
Business goals:
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More clarity and structure, to integrate all jobs and roles whilst having time
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How can I bring my thoughts and ideas better in my reality?
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How can I back myself more in all roles and find a better balance?
Life goals:
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I want to step into my full potential, really come back to my self and base my decisions on my needs
for a juicy life & a striving business
Real Transformation
Takes Commitment
This isn’t for everyone. It’s not a quick fix, and it’s not about avoiding the hard work.
Take radical responsibility for their lives.
Commit to their personal growth and well-being.
Create lasting, meaningful change.
the process
PERSONAL INNER WORK:
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identifying as to WHY she was people pleasing and not setting boundaries
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working WITH her belief and body, rather then against it so she can...
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..build a new story within herself, strengthen self trust and say
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'no' to others
BUSINESS MEASUREMENTS:
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identify and understand communication patterns and find ways to more clarity and understanding
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how to streamline and shift responsibility and help make everyone feel seen
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implement a better structural system for more overview, clear energy distribution and against the overwhelm
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map out fundamentals and strategy for the somatic libra: dream client, offer, policies, pricing, marketing strategies, timeframes and first steps so she feels confident in her work whilst building her other business too
AND FINALLY:
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find time for herself, love and friends to receive and be held too
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integrate selfcare tools and rituals again
why coaching?
"I love to help people, love to be the mothering soul, saying "I'll do that for you", - but at what cost?
I have always known I was a people pleaser but understanding where it came from and WHY was new. The belief: I am not good enough and i am going to disappoint people was behind it - where did that come from? That was an eye opener for me. The WHY behind it.
what ECCA loved?
THE ART OF ALLOWING
Allowing myself to take some time off. I got so caught up in structure and routine and being busy that I don't often allow myself to take time and genuinely switch off. To fully switch of for a month and not feel any guilt or shame for doing that, that was huge!"
Navigating Self worth
I learned how to say 'no' and that it is okay to do so and it is not coming from a place of "I am not good enough" or "They will be disappointed, if I say no."
Structure and Time!
"I actually look at it now from a birds eye view and I know what I am doing every day."
Most Proud
I finally have the confidence to speak my truth, share my ideas and my needs.
...authenticity and backing herself up
I finally have a clear mind and no chaos anymore.
...clarity, time management and structure
My brain feels a lot calmer and I know I can handle it.
...strong trust in self, priorities and commitment
I learned to reframed my people pleasing part. Now I am able to say no to others and yes to myself.
...understand and integrate old beliefs, build and strengthen new ones
Now I am saying yes because I can, not because I have to. I know everything starts with me. And that I can show more of my true self.
...recognizing her boundaries, prioritizing herself first, taking on responsibility
"Today I know I can say 'no', put the boundaries in place and lean into that side. I can accept and allow myself to show more of my true self"
proud of you!